WeJustLookInnocent:
Hi – What are your thoughts on getting STI tested as a soft swap only couple that does not use condoms for oral sex. Let’s assume that you are participating in a soft swap once a month and that 50% of those times involves a new couple that you haven’t played with before. How frequently would you get STI tested if at all? Obviously testing frequently would be better, but getting tested quarterly seems like overkill to us after 2-3 soft swaps. We are thinking that we each get tested twice a year alternating so one of us is tested every quarter. Even then that seems like a lot. What’s your opinion?”
Ams:
I love that you are thinking so pro-actively regarding STI testing! Good for you!
We get STI tested twice a year (him in the summer/winter, me in the spring/fall), but we are an active, full swap couple. Your risk is certainly lower with soft-swap activities, but, in my experience, couples end up making that transition to full-swap somewhat spontaneously, so it’s good to be prepared.
Ams Elle
Ams, co-host of the 2HotWives podcast, grew up in a household obsessed with sex! As the daughter of an Ob/Gyn and one of four sisters, dinner topic conversations were filled with The Miracle of Birth, STI prevention, Take Back the Night rallies, and condom distribution. So, of course, Ams grew up thinking sex would either kill you or ruin your life.
Luckily, Ams never lost her curiosity about sex. Even during the dark days of mothering little children and starting a career as an attorney, Ams kept up her interest in sex by secretly watching high-budget 90s porn and reading dog-eared copies of erotica in the bathtub.
In her mid-thirties, Ams embraced SEX as part of her identity, and, like the overachieving know-it-all that she is, decided that she needed to become an expert in all things sexual. And the best way to become an expert? Learn it, live it, fuck it (or not), and then tell everyone how it goes…