Maine Cpl:
“We would love to hear about your experience with tight-knit friend groups. This type of thing seems pretty common in the poly world (polycules is the term), but I perceive it as less common among swingers. Is this actually true, and if so why?
What we’re talking about is a close group of friends you hang out with regularly. Maybe you travel together. Maybe you do non-sexual things together. There’s a level of trust that maybe permits more experimentation.”
Ams:
I have made closer, more meaningful friendships with other lifestyle women than I was ever able to make with my vanilla friends. We’ve gotten together as families (for vacations, barbecues, etc.) but we also do “just us girls” get togethers. I don’t think anyone in our group identifies as poly. If you had to choose, we’d probably still all identify as swingers (although I hate the labels) but it’s more of a friends-with-benefits model of swinging.
We usually introduce new couples during a vanilla get together (like a group dinner), because even if couples like each other, they may not feel that sexual connection or they may not want to play with a new couple on the first meet.
It’s not so much about keeping a stable group as it is introducing friends to friends and hoping that they feel a connection.
Ams Elle
Ams, co-host of the 2HotWives podcast, grew up in a household obsessed with sex! As the daughter of an Ob/Gyn and one of four sisters, dinner topic conversations were filled with The Miracle of Birth, STI prevention, Take Back the Night rallies, and condom distribution. So, of course, Ams grew up thinking sex would either kill you or ruin your life.
Luckily, Ams never lost her curiosity about sex. Even during the dark days of mothering little children and starting a career as an attorney, Ams kept up her interest in sex by secretly watching high-budget 90s porn and reading dog-eared copies of erotica in the bathtub.
In her mid-thirties, Ams embraced SEX as part of her identity, and, like the overachieving know-it-all that she is, decided that she needed to become an expert in all things sexual. And the best way to become an expert? Learn it, live it, fuck it (or not), and then tell everyone how it goes…